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You Can’t Save A Person From Themselves…So Don’t Try!

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You can't save a person from themselves.
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You can’t save a person from themselves. Despite everything, stepping away from someone you care about takes tremendous strength. (I learned this some time ago!)

In the same manner, it’s difficult to ignore their pleading, crying texts or the desperate voicemails they leave you.

 Therefore, when you decide whether you’re willing to sacrifice your happiness for theirs… that’s when real courage comes into play. 

Moreover, the hardest part about being an amazing friend is knowing when someone isn’t good for you. 

Then again, the second hardest part is stepping away from them, cutting off contact, and limiting how often you see them – even if it breaks your heart to do it. 

You might think it is worth staying friends with someone toxic towards you in the past. But, what’s gained from this?

 Especially if they keep repeating old mistakes and adding salt to fresh wounds- cutting them out of your life will help stop these cycles from repeating themselves! 

The pain may come now, but as time goes by, that should fade into an end to any toxicity forever – which amounts to winning a Golden Ticket!!

You’re a Human Being, Not a Tampon!

Remember that you are your person. You deserve to be treated like a human being, not a sponge used to mop up someone’s tears. 

Also, if you’re constantly being sucked dry by someone demanding all of your attention, needing you to be there for them, and constantly needing you to fix their problems…then you need to ask yourself: Are you a human being or a tampon? 

It’s important to draw boundaries and clarify that you aren’t there for someone to use and abuse. After all, you aren’t a sponge for them to mop up their tears, and you aren’t a Band-Aid to fix their problems.

 You’re a person, and you deserve to be treated like one and with respect. You deserve not to have to clean up someone else’s messes. Nor do you deserve to mop up someone else’s tears and have them drain you dry in the process. 

You can't save a person from themselves.
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Don’t Try to Save Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Be Saved.

In any case, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, and you certainly can’t fix their problems or heal their broken hearts if they don’t want to be fixed or healed.

In like manner, it’s unfair to you; it’s unfair to them and your relationship with them. Because toxic friendships often come with unhealthy expectations. 

Such as, a toxic friend might expect you to know what to say and how to fix their problems when you have no idea what to say or how to fix their issues. 

That’s why you need to nip it in the bud ASAP. A toxic friend might expect you to be there for them when you don’t want to be around them or when you’re busy doing something else. 

Let’s be honest: You might feel like you must constantly talk to them and be there for them when they’re constantly being hurtful. 

You might even feel like you have to listen to them whine about their problems when they’re the ones who created those problems. But you don’t have to!

 Bottom line…

The one thing you can’t save someone from is themselves. So, don’t even try to!

 In the meantime, letting go of toxic friendships is important because you can’t control someone else’s actions or thoughts. You can only control your own!

When you walk away from someone who isn’t good for you, sometimes you have to decide to focus on those who enrich your life. 

In short, it’s important to know when to end a toxic friendship so you can free up your time and energy for healthier relationships and friendships.

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“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.”

― Sue Grafton, T is for Trespass

 

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Mean And Hateful People…What To Do!

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Mean and hateful peopleMean and hateful people…It can be hard to deal with them. You might have had a bad day, you might have had a long week, or maybe you just don’t have the energy to deal with them. However, when you make an effort to deal with them in the right way, the situation could actually improve. No one deserves to be treated poorly because of their words and actions. Here are some ways that will help you deal with mean and hateful people:

1) Don’t take it personally.

2) Step back and give yourself time to process the situation.

3) Try not to engage in any negative conversations with them.

4) Keep your emotions in check and avoid losing your temper.

5) Don’t allow them to control your mood or ruin your day.

Try not to take it personally.

It can be hard to deal with mean people. You might have had a bad day, you might have had a long week, or maybe you just don’t have the energy to deal with them. However, when you make an effort to deal with them in the right way, the situation could actually improve. No one deserves to be treated poorly because of their words and actions. Here are some ways that will help you deal with mean and hateful people:

Step back and give yourself time to process the situation.

It is usually a good idea to step back and give yourself time to process the situation. If you can, try to put as much space between you and the person as possible. If you are going to be facing him or her again soon, try to prepare for it in advance. Get your thoughts together and practice some positive affirmations that will help you stay calm. Remember, no one deserves to be treated poorly because of their words and actions.

Try not to engage in any negative conversations with them.

This is a good rule of thumb when dealing with anyone, not just mean and hateful people. You want to avoid letting them get under your skin and try to control how you’re feeling. Letting someone else affect your mood can be really draining and no one deserves that. It’s important not to engage in any negative conversation with the person you’re talking about. If they start trying to push your buttons or say something that’s rude or insensitive, then just try to disengage from the situation. This way you won’t become upset or let them have power over you which can be done by getting into an argument with them, which they might enjoy more than anything else.

Keep your emotions in check and avoid losing your temper.

One of the most important things to remember is to keep your emotions in check and avoid losing your temper. Sometimes, people are rude or hateful because they’re hurting inside. It might be hard for you to get past the mean words, but try not to get angry or lash out. Use this situation as an opportunity to remember why you do what you do. Remember that there are people who need your help and care, even if one person isn’t receptive.

Don’t allow them to control your mood or ruin your day.

One of the worst things that can happen is allowing these people to control your mood or ruin your day. If you’re having a bad day, what better way to make it worse than dealing with these types of people who are only looking for someone to put down?

It will be hard not to take them personally. You might think that they are hating on you personally, but usually these type of people are just hateful by nature. They will say all sorts of things about other people, but it doesn’t mean they are talking about you.

Conclusion

“Don`t let negative and toxic people rent space in your head. Raise the rent and kick them out!” – Robert Tew  Read more

It’s hard to deal with mean and hateful people. They say and do things that we might not always want to hear. But, there are things we can do to protect ourselves and still feel good about ourselves in the process.

We don’t have to respond to their negativity or give them the satisfaction of knowing they’ve gotten to us. There is a lot of power in knowing that we don’t have to take on the responsibility of their feelings and we don’t have to allow them to control our mood.

It’s not easy, but we owe it to ourselves and our mental health to take care of ourselves in the face of their repulsive behavior.

JUST BE YOURSELF!