You can’t save a person from themselves. Despite everything, stepping away from someone you care about takes tremendous strength. (I learned this some time ago!)
In the same manner, it’s difficult to ignore their pleading, crying texts or the desperate voicemails they leave you.
Therefore, when you decide whether you’re willing to sacrifice your happiness for theirs… that’s when real courage comes into play.
Moreover, the hardest part about being an amazing friend is knowing when someone isn’t good for you.
Then again, the second hardest part is stepping away from them, cutting off contact, and limiting how often you see them – even if it breaks your heart to do it.
You might think it is worth staying friends with someone toxic towards you in the past. But, what’s gained from this?
Especially if they keep repeating old mistakes and adding salt to fresh wounds- cutting them out of your life will help stop these cycles from repeating themselves!
The pain may come now, but as time goes by, that should fade into an end to any toxicity forever – which amounts to winning a Golden Ticket!!
You’re a Human Being, Not a Tampon!
Remember that you are your person. You deserve to be treated like a human being, not a sponge used to mop up someone’s tears.
Also, if you’re constantly being sucked dry by someone demanding all of your attention, needing you to be there for them, and constantly needing you to fix their problems…then you need to ask yourself: Are you a human being or a tampon?
It’s important to draw boundaries and clarify that you aren’t there for someone to use and abuse. After all, you aren’t a sponge for them to mop up their tears, and you aren’t a Band-Aid to fix their problems.
You’re a person, and you deserve to be treated like one and with respect. You deserve not to have to clean up someone else’s messes. Nor do you deserve to mop up someone else’s tears and have them drain you dry in the process.
Don’t Try to Save Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Be Saved.
In any case, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, and you certainly can’t fix their problems or heal their broken hearts if they don’t want to be fixed or healed.
In like manner, it’s unfair to you; it’s unfair to them and your relationship with them. Because toxic friendships often come with unhealthy expectations.
Such as, a toxic friend might expect you to know what to say and how to fix their problems when you have no idea what to say or how to fix their issues.
That’s why you need to nip it in the bud ASAP. A toxic friend might expect you to be there for them when you don’t want to be around them or when you’re busy doing something else.
Let’s be honest: You might feel like you must constantly talk to them and be there for them when they’re constantly being hurtful.
You might even feel like you have to listen to them whine about their problems when they’re the ones who created those problems. But you don’t have to!
Bottom line…
The one thing you can’t save someone from is themselves. So, don’t even try to!
In the meantime, letting go of toxic friendships is important because you can’t control someone else’s actions or thoughts. You can only control your own!
When you walk away from someone who isn’t good for you, sometimes you have to decide to focus on those who enrich your life.
In short, it’s important to know when to end a toxic friendship so you can free up your time and energy for healthier relationships and friendships.
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“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.”
― Sue Grafton, T is for Trespass
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