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The Wondrous You Running Away!

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The Wondrous You

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The wondrous you… don’t want to deal with your problems, so you run away from them instead. While you get a lot of validation from your friends for doing so, it doesn’t make things any easier. 

In fact, it just makes things harder in the long run. In most cases, you often feel like running away whenever you are confronted with a problem…but why?

 Are you afraid of how it might change your life or what others might think about you if they discover it? 

But in doing that, you neglect the fact that there is always a solution to every problem, and running away never solves anything.

Meanwhile, running away seems like a quick fix, but you can’t run away from the problems forever. 

Anywho…Why Do You Run Away From Your Problems Anyway?

Running away is easy for most people, but in the end, you realize that they can’t run away from the problems forever. Why?

Instead of accepting them and trying to fix them, you choose to ignore them and hope that they go away. 

Last but not least, you run away from your problems when you get your ass in a sling…to avoid facing the challenging aspects of life.

 That is to say. You want your life to be a bed of roses that is always nice and easy. You run for the hills when a challenge pops up and hope it goes away.

You might be able to fool yourself for a little while by pretending that everything is okay, but the problems will not go away on their own.

 In other words, you run away to avoid taking responsibility and own up to your colossal decisions.

In any case, here is some advice from a professional…

Leaving may be more comfortable, but staying put is where real growth happens. 

Here are a few reasons to stop avoidance behavior:

  • Problems eventually catch up to you, and you’ll find yourself running into the same or similar situations.
  • It doesn’t teach you to grow or better yourself.
  • Facing problems teaches you perseverance, resilience, and strength.
  • You’ll gain a sense of pride and independence.

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Silhouette of a young girl running along the beach of the sea during an amazing sunset

How Running Away Makes Your Problems Worse?

The wondrous you, can’t handle your problems? Fine. Run away then! You’ll feel so much better when there is no struggle at all;

It’s as though we are programming ourselves to fail whenever things get tough because if they don’t happen in one go, how will I know what works best for me? 

You might think running away from your problems will make them disappear for good. But they will keep following you, no matter where your head is!

Be that as it may, they only come back with a vengeance when you run from your problems. What goes on around eventually comes right around to hit you where it hurts the most- in this case, literally!

The most important thing about dealing with problems is that they need to go away and how you deal with them…

The Importance Of Confronting Your problems!

To that end, you cannot run fast enough or hide for long…so confront the problems head-on.

Simply put…the moment you stop running away from your problems… is the same moment they start to diminish. 

3 Ways To Stop Running And Face Your

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Problems

Moreover, it takes strength and courage to end the cycle of running away and facing the problems you’re most afraid of.

Here is some advice to assist you in the process of stopping making tracks:

  • Stop being chicken-hearted: you must decide to stand up to your fears.
  • Gladly accept discomfort: many things in life are worth some discomfort. (Means take responsibility and own your self-made issues.)
  • Seek support and insight from others who have walked down the road you are walking down.

You have to take the first step towards solving your problems because they ain’t gonna solve themselves.

The wondrous you…Conclusion

By and large, there is nothing worse than running away from your problems, but there is also nothing better than confronting them head-on. 

In reality, problems are inevitable, and it is impossible to live a life without them, so you might as well learn how to confront them. 

Despite what you might think, running away doesn’t make your problems disappear but makes them worse. 

Let me clarify…confronting your fears and problems is the only way to solve them.

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Unclaimed Person:Heart-Rending Story! (Part 1)

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pauper’s graves.

Unclaimed person…according to the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System (NamUs.gov),  there are more than 14,172  in the United States. 

At its core, the problem is that when someone dies without any known next of kin, at that point, they become what is known as an unclaimed person. 

While this may seem like a small number, it is important to remember that each one of these people was somebody’s son or daughter, brother or sister, mother or father;

They were somebody’s friend or coworker, or neighbors. And now they are gone, without anybody to claim them.

  It’s a very sad reality.

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Unclaimed person graves

Many were impoverished or homeless, and their bodies were held in morgues or cremated without anyone ever knowing they were deceased.

Subsequently, this is a tragedy because the unclaimed individuals, their families, and friends will never know what happened to them. 

These unclaimed persons often go unclaimed for years, and their bodies are usually cremated or buried in pauper’s graves. 

It’s a sad reality, but it often happens in the United States. Each year, thousands of people die without any known next of kin, and their bodies go unclaimed. 

Likewise, some of these people are never identified, and their deaths go unnoticed. (They are forgotten.)

Furthermore, if you have lost a loved one and don’t know what happened to them, there’s a good chance they may be one of the 40,000 unclaimed persons in the United States.

This is a subject close at heart because a brother of mine was found deceased behind a building in 2021. 

Luckily, he was known and identified, and we claimed his body from the coroner’s office.

That said…these people were somebody…and should not be forgotten!

Unclaimed Person / NamUs #UCP93522

1. William R Ross, Male, 

Black / African American

Date Body Found: June 28, 2022

Location Found: Washington, District of Columbia

Date Modified: July 21, 2022

Circumstances

Date Body Found: June 28, 2022

NamUs Case Created: July 21, 2022

Location Found Map

Found On Tribal Land: No

Circumstances of Recovery: The decedent passed away at the hospital, and no one claimed the remains. He was sent to OCME as a Storage Case and released as a Public Disposition Case.

Unclaimed Person / NamUs #UCP93348

2. Charolette Kaziah Vincent, Female, 

Black / African American

Date Body Found: June 22, 2022

Location Found: Washington D.C., District of Columbia, 20002

Date Modified: July 15, 2022

Circumstances

Date Body Found: June 22, 2022

NamUs Case Created: July 14, 2022

Location Found Map

Found On Tribal Land: No

Circumstances of Recovery: The landlord presented to the deceased residence on 06/22/22 to change the filter, noticed deceased mail piling up & neighbors had not seen her. He knocked on dec apt door several times w/o success, used a spare key to enter the locked apt & found dec on the living room floor.

Unclaimed Person / NamUs #UCP93346

3. David Williams, Male, Black / African American

Date Body FoundJune 24, 2022

Location Found: Washington D.C., District of Columbia

Date Modified: July 18, 2022

Circumstances

Date Body Found: June 24, 2022

NamUs Case Created: July 14, 2022

Location Found Map

Location: Washington D.C., District of Columbia 20019

Found On Tribal Land: No

Circumstances of Recovery: Deceased was found slumped over seated on a wall in an alley behind 3004 M Place, SE, by a resident in the neighborhood when she was taking out her trash on 06/24/22

Unclaimed Person / NamUs #UCP93345

4. Harry Oppenheim, Male, White / Caucasian

Date Body Found: June 16, 2022

Location Found: Washington D.C., District of Columbia

Date Modified: July 15, 2022

Circumstances

Date Body Found: June 16, 2022

NamUs Case Created: July 14, 2022

Location Found Map

Location: Washington D.C., District of Columbia

County: District of Columbia

Found On Tribal Land: No

Circumstances of Recovery: Decedent was brought to OCME as a Storage Case.

Unclaimed Person / NamUs #UCP93341

5. William Delando Wimbush, 

Male, Black / African American

Date Body Found: May 23, 2022

Location Found: Washington, District of Columbia, 20010

Date Modified: July 15, 2022

Circumstances

NamUs Case Created: July 14, 2022

Location Found Map

Found On Tribal Land: No

Circumstances of Recovery: Decedent was brought to OCME as a Storage Case from WHC.

Conclusion 

The heart-wrenching story of the unclaimed person in the United States is a story that needs to be told. Every year, thousands of people die in the United States without ever being claimed by a family member or friend. 

These unclaimed bodies often end up in pauper’s graves, with no one to remember them or mourn their loss. 

This story is a reminder of the importance of human connection and the value of every life. 

This story is a reminder that we all need to take the time to connect with our loved ones and let them know how much they mean to us. 

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Authentically Speaking…Who Am I?

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Authentically speaking…who am I? How often do we ask this question ourselves? If you’re reading this article right now, it means that somewhere in your heart, you want to know the answer. 

Who am I is a fundamental question that we must explore on a personal level? We all have those moments when we ask about who we are or what our purpose in life is?

So many people live with a hidden identity, afraid to come out of the shadows for fear of being judged by others or even losing friends or family members. 

But why should anyone judge us for who we are and how we identify? We all have different facets to our personalities, but that doesn’t make us less than individuals.

 More importantly, it makes us more interesting as people because everyone has unique qualities and attributes. 

Take someone like Prince, for example; he was known as one of the greatest musicians of his time due to his ability to articulate his singing voice in such an amazing way that left everyone speechless! 

So…who do you think helped him hone those talents? It certainly wasn’t anyone judging him for who he was and how he identified as a musician at the time! 

Those negative individuals will always be waiting to knock you off balance, but they don’t define you—who you are do not matter! 

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Who Are You? Knowing And Understanding The Real You!

The first step towards understanding who you are is knowing your authentic self. The authentic self is the real you. 

It is who you are without any pretense or any deception. 

Also, its’ what you show to the world without any defense mechanisms or protective shields. 

 The way to understand your authentic self is, to be honest with yourself. You must know what you feel inside, even if you fear the consequences of being honest.

In like manner, you have to go beyond the superficial level at which most people operate; by looking beneath the surface and exploring the hidden parts of your personality that you don’t let the world see. 

And you have to go beyond…

  1. What your rational mind tells you. 
  2. You have to go beyond the limits of your intellectual knowledge.
  3. And beyond what you think you know about yourself.

Being Authentic Is The Only Way To Live!Authentically speaking

In the end, living authentically really isn’t that hard. Whats’ equally important is letting go of the need to 

  1. impress others; 
  2. not being afraid of vulnerability, 
  3. embracing your inner child,
  4.  be honest about who you are, 
  5. and follow your heart.

 Of course, there will be times when you make mistakes, but that’s part of the human experience. Mistakes are how we learn and grow.

 So let go of the need to impress others and just be yourself. (Authentic self) It’s about exploring your true motivations, desires, and needs. 

By the same token, let go of the need to be perfect and make mistakes…learn from them.

5 Steps To Discovering Your Authentic Self!

The first step to discovering our false self; is the part of you trying to please others by fitting into their expectations; or trying to fit into a certain group or social identity. 

Once you become aware of the

 you can move away from it and towards your authentic self. 

The second step is to become aware of the true self…is your authentic self. It is who you are without any artifice and to the world without any pretense. 

The third step is to start to express your true self more. Showing the world your authentic self. You do this by becoming more authentic in your speech and actions. 

You become more real and less fake. You let others see the real you. 

The fourth step is to stop comparing yourself to others. Another way to create a false self is to fit into a certain group or social identity. 

The fifth step is to let go of your ego. The ego is your false self. You have to let it go and become less self-centered. 

Conclusion

At the end of the day, who you are doesn’t matter as much as who you want to become.

 Those negative individuals will always be waiting to knock you off balance, but remember that they don’t define you—who you are does not matter! 

So come on, if you have been hiding behind a facade for fear of being judged, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light where everyone can see the real you!

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The Gangsta-Thug Narrative: Who’s affected…2?

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The Gangsta-thug …image and enthusiastic embrace of society’s stereotypes are the most pressing problem facing African-American males. 

When they see you, it’s shameful that the hue of your skin defines who you are in the eyes of the world; (the police)for sure. (You are an abomination!)

And so…the rules of law don’t immediately pertain to you.

In most atrocious ways, you are guilty until proven innocent. Then again, that part…until proven innocent never comes into play.

Gangsta-thug

Why? Because you fit the Gangsta-thug narrative! Therefore, there is no need to look elsewhere for the guilty other.  

Perhaps, some of you have spent years in prison for a crime you never committed. In short, thirty years later, DNA proves…YOU WERE INNOCENT!

But…in the eyes of the prosecutor…

You were seen as suspicious. People distrust you because your black or brown skin and foreign accent make you difficult to understand. 

So you are guilty as charged…the DNA lied!

It’s a shame…no matter how hard you work, you will never be given the same opportunities as your white counterparts. 

For the most part, if you are from another country, you are a second-class citizen, and if you are black…you are a Gangsta Thug!

This blog post explores how words such as thug, thuggery, and thuggish are biased to stereotype Black people and other minorities based solely on their appearance or origin…rather than any real evidence of threatening behavior.

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Mae Mallory: Civil Rights Activist -N-Self-Defense Advocate!

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Mae Mallory (June 9, 1927 – 2007)

Mae Mallory was a civil rights activist supporting armed self-defense and school integration.

Generally, she participated in demonstrations against the Vietnam War and the U.S. occupation of the Dominican. 

And believed Black people are masters of their fate – militant forms of Black Power often associated with men.

To That end, she was a persistent advocate for self-defense and the voices of working-class black women in the fight for civil rights.

She became a civil rights activist early in her life and is best known for her involvement in the armed self-defense of African Americans. 

Also, she argued that despite the ruling of Brown vs. Board of Education, the zoning policies of the NYC Board of Education essentially ensured that segregation in the city was still very much in place.

The Harlem  Nine

More importantly, she was the founder of the “Harlem 9,” a group of nine Black mothers formed to protest the inferior conditions of schools in New York City during the 1950s.

Consequently, Harlem nine was formed in 1956; their goal was to advocate for “open transfer” for their children, which would allow them to attend schools outside of their district.

For the most part, schools that weren’t suffering from overcrowding, dilapidating building, and inexperienced teachers.

As a result, the Harlem 9 took action against racism and discrimination in New York. Although they faced much opposition, these brave people made their voices heard: 

  • They filed lawsuits against both city officials as well as state legislation for unfair treatment based on race or ethnic background; 
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  • And boycotted businesses that refused service because it would cause too much trouble (such as restaurants).

Nonetheless, in the end, with a victory in the courts in 1960, Mae Mallory and the Harlem 9 won the right to transfer their children into white schools.

However, this was not enough for the NYC Board of Education, which admitted they had perpetuated “de facto” segregation in their boroughs, a huge step forward for education across all races.

Ms. Mallory supported numerous other civil rights initiatives, including work with Robert F. Williams and the NAACP during Freedom Rides in 1961.”

There she hosted SNCC student riders participating in Monroe, North Carolina.

Accusations of kidnapping 

Despite allowing a white couple to hide out in her home to avoid danger from armed protestors, who had gathered in response to the Freedom Riders; 

Mallory was accused of kidnapping the white couple.

Afterward… 

Due in part to the fear of retaliation from the KKK, Mallory fled from North Carolina to Cleveland, Ohio, where she was captured after six weeks in hiding.

Conversely, while in prison, she worked to publicize her case and shed light on Black women’s experiences in America.

She advocated for separatism, socialism, and self-defense through speeches, letters, and press releases.

In 1964, she was deported back to North Carolina to stand trial for the kidnapping charge.

Although an all-white jury sentenced her to 16-20 years in prison, she was later acquitted in 1965 due to racial discrimination during the jury selection.

Conclusion

Mae Mallory was an incredible woman who fought for change until her last breath. 

She is a prime example of what can be accomplished when we unite and fight for what’s right.

 Mae Mallory continued her activism until she died in 2007. 

We should all strive to be more like Mae Mallory and continue her legacy of activism and self-defense. 

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 Let’s keep Mae Mallory’s memory alive!

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