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Chronic Stress Effects: My Personal Story!

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Chronic Stress
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Chronic stress is a common response to the demands of modern life. Guess what? I learned the hard way what being overly stressed out is and what it can do to your life!

On the positive side…it manifests as stress symptoms such as:

  •  nervousness, 
  • irritability, 
  • muscle tension, 

And so on — it revs up every part of the body and mind to keep you alive and alert.

In the same way, the negative effects of chronic stress build slowly over time, and it starts to limit your ability to enjoy simple pleasures in life or find inner peace until it’s too late.

 But don’t despair! You can integrate effective practices into your life to help you manage chronic stress more effectively. 

Check out my strategies to help you get unstuck.

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At first glance…Take time to self-reflect!

As noted earlier, I learned the hard way what being overly stressed out is and what it can do to your life! 

Well, that is a long, drawn-out story which is another story together. However, I will give you a summary.

I worked at the FBI, and if you don’t know, the jobs are highly stressed daily. Particularly the programs dealing with informants. 

That said, I was Program Manager for the S-Visa Program, a U.S. nonimmigrant visa that allows persons who witnesses or informants to assist law enforcement and provide information about a criminal organization in the U.S. 

It is otherwise known as the “Snitch” visa. This visa is temporary and does not permit permanent living in the U.S. 

Anyway, during my time with the FBI, I encountered many obstacles along the way;

The backlog of S-visa requests from the FBI and other Federal Law Enforcement Agencies at U.S. Citizenship and Immigration Immigration Services was the biggest source of my stress and a huge obstacle that wasn’t easy to overcome.

 Some I could get around; others were a constant source of stress that hijacked my coping ability and overwhelmed me. 

I was suffering from chronic stress, which prompted the fall, causing a traumatic brain injury. (TBI)

So, what I am leading up to was my contact with a carpeted concrete floor in 2008. 😭

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One day, I passed out, hitting the back of my head. 🗣

See…I was unaware of being stressed out until it was much too late. It’s now 2022…14 years later, and I’m disabled mentally.

What’s more, I’m not crazy mentally; my brain doesn’t always function properly!

So the first step in managing your stress is to learn to “unsee”👁 your stress. 

When you’re feeling stressed,😤Focus on what you’re doing. 

Keep tabs on your mental “forest.” When you notice that your mind has wandered far off into the bushes, gently but firmly pull your attention back to the task.

 It’s hard to do when you’re stressed because you don’t want to admit that you feel overwhelmed or you don’t want to admit that you’re struggling. 

🆗…I know because it once was me!

Therefore, If you can take a step back, you’ll be surprised at how much better the situation🔥 will look when you are not stressed.🤯

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Equally important…exercise and daily mindfulness practices!

Moreover, I found a quick and easy way to quiet your mind and regain control over your attention? 

  1. Take up a few low-key exercises — yoga, walking, breathing exercises, or something else that helps you quiet your mind. 
  2. You need to take a break from the demands of work or school and acknowledge that you’re feeling stressed. 
  3. Finding a few minutes to yourself every day to do some gentle, mind-quieting exercise is an easy, effective way to do this. 

In the long run, it’s helpful if you’re stressed, over-tasked, and overwhelmed.

It may seem small, but it can be tremendously comforting and helpful to the stressed-out mind.

The next step …Don’t dwell on the past!

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But, at the same time, you might be thinking, how in the hell can you move forward when your past keeps invading your every thought?

How do you move away from demons that played a part in  your descent into the dark places of your mind?

To begin with, you must become keenly aware of your mind path, your pattern of thinking backward, into the dark abyss of past mistakes and misfortunes, which only compound the situation…making you more stressed and anxious. 

To put it more simply…stressed-out minds are more focused on the got darn negative. So the more time you spend dwelling on the past, the more you feel stressed and anxious. 

Reach for a relaxed state of mind by focusing on the present moment. Think happy thoughts.

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another.” 

―William James

 

Simply put…

 Stop thinking about the past and consider what you can do to move forward!

And be sure to…have a conversation with yourself!

The best way to deal with stress is by talking yourself down from the high horse with a sense of humor.

By the way, this will make you feel less stressed! 

However, it’s not easy, but telling your brain that it needs a break will make you feel better in no time!

“Stress acts as an accelerator: it will push you either forward or backward, but you choose which direction.”

―Chelsea Erieau

What Is Chronic Stress…Fight or Flight! What I experienced:⬇️

  • Namely, stress is the body’s reaction to harmful real or perceived situations. 
  • A chemical reaction in your body allows you to act to prevent injury when you feel threatened.
  • The stress response reaction: is known as “fight-or-flight.” 
  • During the stress response, your heart rate increases, breathing quickens, muscles tighten, and blood pressure rises.
  •  You are ready to act. It is how you protect yourself.

Now, some people are better able to handle stress than others. And, also not all stress is bad. 

It comes down to…small doses of stress can help you accomplish tasks and prevent you from getting hurt. 

Also, stress makes you slam on the brakes to avoid hitting the car in front of you. That’s a good thing.

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Chronic stress is almost inevitable if you’re a highly-pressured, high-performing individual in today’s modern world. 

On the contrary, many people struggle with it, but it doesn’t have to be a barrier to your happiness and success. 

It’s important to recognize that you’re feeling stressed, take a few moments to check-in and collect yourself, and then reach for a few low-key stress-reducing techniques.

 These will help you regain control over your attention and get back to enjoying life.🌹

 It took years to learn how to control the stress and not allow it to control me!

👀Thanks for reading👁

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You Are Good Enough: Master the Art of Being True To You!

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You are good enough…with so much negativity and hateful rhetoric in the world today, it’s easy to feel like you don’t measure up. 

Let me ask you a question, have you ever felt like you just weren’t good enough? 

In any case,

 you don’t need to feel like you’re not good enough because, in reality, you are better than most; hell, you don’t realize it and…

To clarify, almost everyone experiences it at some point in life. Self-doubt is a natural part of being human and can creep up on anyone. 

However…

learning to recognize and confront these negative thoughts head-on is the first step toward becoming the person you aspire to be. 

Anyhow…

That’s where this blog post comes in: While it might feel like there isn’t enough love in the world right now, that’s not true. 

You are worthy of love; you must find ways to see that truth and embrace it yourself.

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Why You Are Good Enough: What Does It Mean?

When you feel like you aren’t enough, you’re comparing yourself to others and imagining that you don’t measure up to their perceived standards. 

Meanwhile, this feeling usually stems from comparing your “ideal self” to your “real self” and then feeling like your current situation doesn’t align with your expectations. 

Truth be told, when you don’t feel like you are enough, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking that you need to become someone better to feel worthy of love and happiness.

Many people have found the perfect balance between work/play while still staying true to themselves. So can you!

Why Are You Good Enough?

You may be surprised to learn that there is no such thing as “enough.” The fact is that there is no one-size-fits-all standard of success or worthiness. 

In like manner, what one person considers “enough” could be different for someone else.

 So instead of striving to reach a goal that doesn’t exist, try learning to be at peace with who you are.

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3 Ways To Stop Feeling Like You Aren’t  Good Enough!

Be mindful of your negative self-talk: 

One way to counteract feelings of not being enough is to stop your negative self-talk.

Challenge your negative thoughts: 

Identify the negative thoughts holding you back, and try challenging them. 

 Track your negative thoughts:

 Keep a journal and write down negative self-talk you experience throughout the day. 

2 More Strategies To Build Your Self-Esteem!

Focus on your strengths: People with high self-esteem tend to focus on their strengths rather than their shortcomings. 

Surround yourself with positive people: Negative people can drain your energy and make you feel like you don’t measure up. 

Bottom line

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If you ever feel like you aren’t enough, remember that there is no one-size-fits-all standard of success or worthiness. 

Instead, focus on your strengths and building your self-esteem. 

After all, the world needs more love, not more hate and divisiveness. 

During these challenging times, we must remember that we are all human and share the same commonalities.🌹

Thanks for reading👁

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Embrace Aging: Why You Should Embrace It!

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Embrace aging…we all want to live as long and healthy as possible, but why?  The reality is that aging doesn’t come with any guarantees. 

In any case, it’s not something bad or wrong; it just happens – which can make this process feel like one big lottery game…where you’re trying your best and still have no control over what will happen next!

In order words: don’t let society dictate how old YOU think yourself should be because there are plenty more important things than keeping up appearances (like spending time doing activities.

You should embrace aging; the following are four reasons why you should embrace it:

Losing independence is not always a bad thing.

According to Social Security, one in three Americans are expected to survive into old age. 

 Whether you’re living on your own or with a senior partner/ roommate – it’s important that we take care not just for ourselves but also for those who will soon follow suit as they grow independent! 

It seems many seniors wish this time were different; free from all obligations- both personal and professional… 

But the truth is no matter what stage of life has brought us; there should always be an element of connectedness present, which means allowing oneself to rely upon others occasionally.

You’ve already mastered some of your greatest skills.

As we grow older, it seems like our childhood selves are starting to take over. 

We might be more awkward in social situations and less productive than before – but these traits make us better versions of ourselves! 

When you’re young, there’s no room for failure because everything can go wrong all at once; when life hits middle age, though (or even early 20s), those mishaps start happening fewer times until they finally disappear entirely.

Over time, it becomes easier to forget how much you’ve already mastered. 

But this life-changing knowledge should make us feel more confident in our abilities because we know that whatever challenge or skill deficiency there may have been won’t last forever!

In addition, the skills you’ve mastered in the past can also help you get through life’s challenges.

It can be a time to reconnect with what matters most.

We all grow old, but we’ve got the power to stay young at heart by reconnecting with our past. 

And one of the best ways is to get nostalgic and look back on what brought you joy when you were younger–

Those activities made your child smile or gave him a sense of accomplishment from doing them well. 

You’ll gain wisdom you wouldn’t have gained otherwise.

I could wax philosophical about life and its lessons, but I won’t. 

Instead, let’s get down to brass tacks: what have you learned from your time on Earth?

What are some things that makeup who we are as beings living through an experience-filled lifetime like ours! 

It may be cliche at this point in our lives–and maybe even impossible given how much has happened already—but think back over every momentary memory or insight gained since birth until now; consider everything before answering the question… 

The process is often called “soul searching,” – and it can help you gain wisdom that can help you in the future.

Bottom line

Grow up! Aging is not a disease; you’re never too old to have fun. Our minds change as we age- some people experience improved cognitive function while others lose their memories or become more forgetful; 

There’s no one way to feel good about yourself through this life because each person has different priorities when facing difficulties on the road towards old age.

Thanks For Reading👁

 

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Filicide: The Murder of a Child by a Parent!

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Filicide – is a horrifying crime that, sadly, happens more often than we’d like to think; a crime that often shocks and horrifies the public when a parent kills their child.

In fact, there is no greater tragedy or act of unimaginable desperation and despair. 

 Furthermore, in the United States, filicide – the murder of a child by a parent – occurs an average of 500 times per year.

And while the motivations for such a heinous act are often complex and nuanced, the outcome is always heartbreaking. 

The loss of innocence and trust for the child. For the parent, it descends into a hellish abyss of guilt, regret, or nothing. 

In this blog post, I’ll explore the motivations behind filicide.

A Brief Introduction Who Commits Filicide? 

While this heinous act can be motivated by many factors, ranging from greed to mental illness, one thing is always clear: The child was innocent, and their death was preventable. 

That said, in the United States, filicide is the leading cause of death for children 1-5 years old. 

To this end, an estimated 1,500 children are killed by their parents yearly.

While it’s a crime that cuts across all demographics, some common risk factors may contribute to a parent becoming capable of murder. 

Why do parents kill their children?

While it’s impossible to know exactly why a parent would kill their child, there are some possible explanations. 

Filicide is not an uncommon calamity; a study supported by the National Institute of Health found that about 15% of homicide arrests over 32 years were filicidal.

However, research studies have identified five motivations of adults who murder children.

  •  The parent kills the child because they may perceive it to be in the child’s best interest. It may be reality-based (e.g., the child suffers from a terminal illness.
  • The parent kills the child based on ideas, not based on reality. For example, the parent believes the devil has possessed the child.
  • Unwanted child: The parent kills the child they consider a hindrance.
  • Accidental: The child’s death is an unintentional outcome of parental physical abuse.
  • Spousal revenge: The parent kills the child to get revenge on the spouse or partner.

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The Power Of Random Acts Of Kindness!👍

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Random acts of kindness are often seen as trite or cliche, but new research shows that they can profoundly impact our happiness and wellbeing.

A recent study published in the journal Social Psychological and Personality Science found that people who performed random acts of kindness were significantly happier than those who didn’t.

So why are random acts of kindness so powerful? One explanation is that they help us to feel connected to others.

When we perform a kind act, we not only make the recipient feel good, but we also send a message to ourselves that we are good people

The Power Of Kindness

In a world that often seems driven by anger and selfishness, it’s more important than ever to remember the power of kindness.

A random act of kindness can brighten someone’s day and make the world feel just a little bit warmer. And when we see others being kind, it can inspire us to be kind as well.

So let’s commit to being kind to one another, even when it’s hard. We’ll never know the full impact of our kindness, but we can be sure that it will make a difference in the world.

 

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Why We Should All Be Practicing Kindness?

It’s been said that one act of kindness can change a person’s entire day.

And while that may be true, the power of kindness doesn’t stop there.

Research has shown that kind acts can have a ripple effect, impacting not just the recipient of the act but also the person who performed the action and the witnesses.

So what is it about kindness that makes it so powerful? Kindness can reduce stress, lower blood pressure, and even boost immunity.

It can also increase happiness and life satisfaction.

Plus, it’s contagious – it inspires us to be kind when we see someone being kind.

So the next time you’re feeling stressed or down, try performing a random act of kindness.

It just might brighten your day – and the days of those around you.

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The Benefits Of Being Kind!

Most of us know that it feels good to be kind. But did you know that being kind can also have some serious benefits for your health and wellbeing?

Here are just a few of the ways that being kind can improve your life:

  • Kindness Can Reduce Stress!
    When you are kind to others, it can help to reduce the stress in your life.
  • Kindness releases oxytocin, a hormone that helps reduce stress and promote relaxation.
  • Kindness Can Boost Your Immune System!
    You may have heard that laughter is the best medicine, but did you know that kindness can also boost your immune system?

According to a recent study, people who performed acts of kindness had lower stress and anxiety levels and increased happiness and satisfaction.

So why is kindness so good for your health?

When you perform acts of kindness, your body releases oxytocin, a hormone that has many health benefits, including reducing stress and anxiety, improving heart health, and increasing immunity.

So next time you feel stressed or down, try doing something kind for someone. It just might make you feel better and help keep you healthy.

Kindness Can Improve Your Heart Health!

You may have heard that kindness is good for your mental health, but did you know it can also improve your physical health?

That’s right – being kind can help to improve your heart health.

So how does kindness help your heart? For starters, it can lower your blood pressure and heart rate.

It can also reduce the risk of heart disease and stroke. And it can help to improve your overall cardiovascular health.

So next time you feel down, why not try being kind to others? It just might help you to feel better – and it could also improve your heart health.

 

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 How You Can Start Practicing Kindness Today?

If you’re looking to make a difference in the world, there’s no better place to start than with yourself. Practicing kindness is a great way to improve wellbeing and make those around you happier.

And anyone can do it, no matter who you are or your circumstances.

So how can you start practicing kindness today? Here are a few ideas:

  • -Make a point of doing something nice for someone every day, even if it’s something small.
    -Smile at people you pass on the street.
    -Hold the door open for someone.
    -Offer your seat on public transport to someone who looks like they need it more than you do.

These are just a few ideas – there are endless ways you can show kindness to those around you. So why not start today?

The ripple effect of kindness!

Small acts of kindness can have a ripple effect that touches many lives.

When we are kind to others, it sends a message that we care about them and value them as human beings.

It can profoundly impact the lives of those we interact with and inspire them to be kind to others.

In a world that is often filled with violence and hate, kindness is a simple act that can make a big difference.

It costs us nothing to be kind, but the benefits are immeasurable.

If we can all commit to being kinder to those around us, we can make the world better for everyone.

We often hear about the power of positive thinking and how our thoughts can shape our reality.

But what about our actions? Can our actions also create positive change in the world?

It turns out they can. The power of random acts of kindness has been shown repeatedly to be a force for good in the world.

Whether it’s paying for someone’s coffee, helping a stranger with their groceries, or simply smiling at someone, these small acts of kindness can create a ripple effect of positivity that can change lives.

So next time you’re feeling down or like you can’t make a difference in the world, remember that even the smallest act of kindness can change someone’s day – and maybe even the world.

 Why does Kindness Matter?

In a world that can often feel cold and unforgiving, it’s easy to forget the power of simple acts of kindness. But kindness matters more than we realize. The little things we do for others can make the biggest difference in their lives.

It doesn’t matter if you’re helping a friend in need or paying it forward to a stranger – kindness always counts. Kind people are happier, healthier, and live longer than those who don’t practice kindness. And the good news is that it’s never too late to start being kind. So please commit to being kinder today, and see how it transforms your life for the better.

Conclusion

Random acts of kindness can have a powerful impact on the world. They can brighten someone’s day, make them feel appreciated, and remind them that they are not alone. Don’t hesitate to act if you see someone needing a kind act. You could make a world of difference.

 

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These acts can help you feel more connected with others, which helps strengthen a sense of belonging and can directly influence loneliness and improve relationships.
— DIANA SAMUEL, MD

Part of depression and anxiety are feelings of helplessness and hopelessness. Practicing random acts of kindness makes people feel helpful, optimistic, and productive and boosts self-esteem.
— HOORIE SIDDIQUE, PHD

Our brains are connected to our bodies. There is evidence of increased oxytocin having physical benefits to health, like lowering our blood pressure and dilating blood vessels, ultimately improving our cardiovascular health.
— RACHEL SLICK, LCSW

The key is to repeat acts of kindness throughout your week for the benefits to be long-lasting. Ongoing acts of kindness toward yourself, co-workers, neighbors, and loved ones can promote the continued feelings associated with making a random act of kindness.
— MEGHAN MARCUM, PSYD