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You Can’t Save A Person From Themselves…So Don’t Try!

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You can’t save a person from themselves. Despite everything, stepping away from someone you care about takes tremendous strength. (I learned this some time ago!)

In the same manner, it’s difficult to ignore their pleading, crying texts or the desperate voicemails they leave you.

 Therefore, when you decide whether you’re willing to sacrifice your happiness for theirs… that’s when real courage comes into play. 

Moreover, the hardest part about being an amazing friend is knowing when someone isn’t good for you. 

Then again, the second hardest part is stepping away from them, cutting off contact, and limiting how often you see them – even if it breaks your heart to do it. 

You might think it is worth staying friends with someone toxic towards you in the past. But, what’s gained from this?

 Especially if they keep repeating old mistakes and adding salt to fresh wounds- cutting them out of your life will help stop these cycles from repeating themselves! 

The pain may come now, but as time goes by, that should fade into an end to any toxicity forever – which amounts to winning a Golden Ticket!!

You’re a Human Being, Not a Tampon!

Remember that you are your person. You deserve to be treated like a human being, not a sponge used to mop up someone’s tears. 

Also, if you’re constantly being sucked dry by someone demanding all of your attention, needing you to be there for them, and constantly needing you to fix their problems…then you need to ask yourself: Are you a human being or a tampon? 

It’s important to draw boundaries and clarify that you aren’t there for someone to use and abuse. After all, you aren’t a sponge for them to mop up their tears, and you aren’t a Band-Aid to fix their problems.

 You’re a person, and you deserve to be treated like one and with respect. You deserve not to have to clean up someone else’s messes. Nor do you deserve to mop up someone else’s tears and have them drain you dry in the process. 

You can't save a person from themselves.
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Don’t Try to Save Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Be Saved.

In any case, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, and you certainly can’t fix their problems or heal their broken hearts if they don’t want to be fixed or healed.

In like manner, it’s unfair to you; it’s unfair to them and your relationship with them. Because toxic friendships often come with unhealthy expectations. 

Such as, a toxic friend might expect you to know what to say and how to fix their problems when you have no idea what to say or how to fix their issues. 

That’s why you need to nip it in the bud ASAP. A toxic friend might expect you to be there for them when you don’t want to be around them or when you’re busy doing something else. 

Let’s be honest: You might feel like you must constantly talk to them and be there for them when they’re constantly being hurtful. 

You might even feel like you have to listen to them whine about their problems when they’re the ones who created those problems. But you don’t have to!

 Bottom line…

The one thing you can’t save someone from is themselves. So, don’t even try to!

 In the meantime, letting go of toxic friendships is important because you can’t control someone else’s actions or thoughts. You can only control your own!

When you walk away from someone who isn’t good for you, sometimes you have to decide to focus on those who enrich your life. 

In short, it’s important to know when to end a toxic friendship so you can free up your time and energy for healthier relationships and friendships.

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“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.”

― Sue Grafton, T is for Trespass

 

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Authentically Speaking…Who Am I?

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Authentically speaking…who am I? How often do we ask this question ourselves? If you’re reading this article right now, it means that somewhere in your heart, you want to know the answer. 

Who am I is a fundamental question that we must explore on a personal level? We all have those moments when we ask about who we are or what our purpose in life is?

So many people live with a hidden identity, afraid to come out of the shadows for fear of being judged by others or even losing friends or family members. 

But why should anyone judge us for who we are and how we identify? We all have different facets to our personalities, but that doesn’t make us less than individuals.

 More importantly, it makes us more interesting as people because everyone has unique qualities and attributes. 

Take someone like Prince, for example; he was known as one of the greatest musicians of his time due to his ability to articulate his singing voice in such an amazing way that left everyone speechless! 

So…who do you think helped him hone those talents? It certainly wasn’t anyone judging him for who he was and how he identified as a musician at the time! 

Those negative individuals will always be waiting to knock you off balance, but they don’t define you—who you are do not matter! 

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Who Are You? Knowing And Understanding The Real You!

The first step towards understanding who you are is knowing your authentic self. The authentic self is the real you. 

It is who you are without any pretense or any deception. 

Also, its’ what you show to the world without any defense mechanisms or protective shields. 

 The way to understand your authentic self is, to be honest with yourself. You must know what you feel inside, even if you fear the consequences of being honest.

In like manner, you have to go beyond the superficial level at which most people operate; by looking beneath the surface and exploring the hidden parts of your personality that you don’t let the world see. 

And you have to go beyond…

  1. What your rational mind tells you. 
  2. You have to go beyond the limits of your intellectual knowledge.
  3. And beyond what you think you know about yourself.

Being Authentic Is The Only Way To Live!Authentically speaking

In the end, living authentically really isn’t that hard. Whats’ equally important is letting go of the need to 

  1. impress others; 
  2. not being afraid of vulnerability, 
  3. embracing your inner child,
  4.  be honest about who you are, 
  5. and follow your heart.

 Of course, there will be times when you make mistakes, but that’s part of the human experience. Mistakes are how we learn and grow.

 So let go of the need to impress others and just be yourself. (Authentic self) It’s about exploring your true motivations, desires, and needs. 

By the same token, let go of the need to be perfect and make mistakes…learn from them.

5 Steps To Discovering Your Authentic Self!

The first step to discovering our false self; is the part of you trying to please others by fitting into their expectations; or trying to fit into a certain group or social identity. 

Once you become aware of the

 you can move away from it and towards your authentic self. 

The second step is to become aware of the true self…is your authentic self. It is who you are without any artifice and to the world without any pretense. 

The third step is to start to express your true self more. Showing the world your authentic self. You do this by becoming more authentic in your speech and actions. 

You become more real and less fake. You let others see the real you. 

The fourth step is to stop comparing yourself to others. Another way to create a false self is to fit into a certain group or social identity. 

The fifth step is to let go of your ego. The ego is your false self. You have to let it go and become less self-centered. 

Conclusion

At the end of the day, who you are doesn’t matter as much as who you want to become.

 Those negative individuals will always be waiting to knock you off balance, but remember that they don’t define you—who you are does not matter! 

So come on, if you have been hiding behind a facade for fear of being judged, it’s time to come out of the shadows and into the light where everyone can see the real you!

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Bigotry In Society: The Negative Effects!

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Bigotry is an ugly thing. It’s been responsible for countless wars, hate crimes, and general misery. But did you know that bigotry can also have negative effects on society as a whole? 

In this blog post, I’ll explore how bigotry can harm not just its targets but also the bigots themselves and the society they live in.

The Negative Effects Of Bigotry!

First…bigotry is defined as an unjustified or unreasonable hatred or intolerance towards an individual or group of people based on: their race, ethnicity, national origin, religion, sexual orientation, or another characteristic. 

And despite the progress made in recent years, bigotry is still a real problem in our society.

While bigotry can have several negative effects on both the individual and society as a whole; In any case, for the individual… bigotry can lead to:

  • The feelings of isolation, loneliness, and depression.
  • Also, it can cause physical and emotional damage.
  • And for society, bigotry can lead to division and mistrust.
  • As well as, It can also foster an environment of hate and violence.

Nonetheless, no one deserves to be a victim of bigotry, and until we learn to accept others for who they are, this problem will continue.

 Bigotry is often manifested in discrimination, prejudice, or hate speech.

While it is often thought of as a personal belief or attitude, it can also hurt society; because of bigotry, individuals are often resistant to change and are unwilling to accept others who are different from them. 

On the contrary, this leads to social disharmony and division, as well as a lack of understanding and respect for others.

The world is getting smaller and smaller thanks to the internet.

Conversely, the internet has drastically reduced the size of the world. In the past, if you wanted to communicate with someone on the other side of the world, you had to wait days or even weeks for a letter to arrive.

But, today, you can send a message instantaneously. Thanks to social media and other online platforms, you can also easily connect with people worldwide.

Without a doubt, the internet has also made it easier to access information and resources worldwide. The internet has truly made the world a smaller and more connected place.

 Bigotry is an outdated way of thinking that leads to discrimination and hate.

Bigotry is an outdated way of thinking that leads to discrimination and hate. It’s time to leave bigotry in the past where it belongs. Time to start accepting people for who they are, not what they are.

 So if you’re a bigot, it’s time to change your ways.

 Otherwise, you’re just going to end up looking like a fool. 

It’s time to leave this thinking behind and move into the future. After all, we’re all human beings and should be treated equally.

Bigotry Is Often Based On Ignorance!

BigotryWe’ve all seen it before. Someone says or does something bigoted, and what do they claim when confronted? 

 They’re not racist/sexist/homophobic/transphobic; they just”don’t understand” those people.

In a manner of speaking, this is, of course,

bullshit; bigotry is almost always based on ignorance;

So, if you don’t understand someone, it’s because you haven’t taken the time to learn about them. Therefore, it’s not an excuse to discriminate.

Besides, there’s nothing wrong with being ignorant. It’s not a crime and doesn’t make you a bad person. 

In fact, we all start ignorant about a lot of things. The key is not to stay ignorant. Once you know better, you have a responsibility to do better. 

And that’s where bigotry comes in. So call them out the next time anyone tries to use ignorance as an excuse for bigotry. 

After all, bigotry is when you refuse to learn and grow. It’s when you hold onto your ignorance even after you’ve been schooled.

Bigotry Can Be Passed Down From Generation To Generation.

A recent study has shown that bigotry can be passed down from generation to generation. The study found that if your grandparents were bigots, there’s a good chance you are too.

So if you’re a bigot, you can blame your grandparents for passing down their bigoted ways. But on the bright side, you can also take solace in the fact that you’re not alone. 

As evidence, Being a Bigot is a family affair.

For example, Do you make …

  • Assumptions about people based on race, religion, or ethnicity? 
  •  Automatically assume that everyone from group X is lazy/stupid/offensive/etc.? 
  • Do you believe that certain groups of people are innately inferior to others? 
  • Do you use derogatory terms to refer to certain groups of people? 
  • Do you believe some groups are responsible for all the world’s problems? 

If you answered yes to any of these questions, you are nothing but a bigot!

Bigotry Is Plain DUMB?

I’m here to tell you that bigotry is just plain dumb. Seriously, what’s the point of hating someone just because they don’t look like you? 

Moreover, it’s so pointless and childish. We should all be grownups and learn to accept people for who they are, not for who we think they should be.

So next time you’re tempted to be a bigot, remember: it’s dumb, childish, and better than that.

If you’re bigoted, you’re not just ignorant and prejudiced… you’re also really, really dumb.

Bigoted People Are Mean!

There’s no denying that bigoted people are mean. They’re the type of people who discriminate against others based on their race, religion, gender, or sexual orientation. And frankly, they’re just not very nice people.

So the next time you encounter a bigoted person, remember that they’re not just mean; they’re also not very bright. And try to have a little pity for them. After all, they can’t help it if they’re mean and dumb.

Bigotry Leads To Hatred And Division!

We all know that bigotry leads to hatred and division. 

After all, it’s one of the most toxic things a person can do. 

But did you know that it can also lead to pretty funny situations? Here are a few examples:

  • – A bigot tries to avoid a person of a different race, only to realize that they are the only person of that race in the room.
  • – A bigot makes a racist or sexist joke, only to be met with blank stares from the people around them.
  • – A bigot tries to divide people by race or religion, only to find that everyone is united by their shared humanity.
  • So next time you see someone being a bigot, remember that they might be making the world a funnier place, even if they don’t mean to.

Bigotry Is Ignorant And Perpetuates Stereotypes!

Bigotry is ignorant and perpetuates stereotypes. It’s also kind of funny when you think about it. 

Just like when someone slips on a banana peel, it’s always entertaining to see someone say or do something bigoted.

There’s a lot of ignorance in the world, and bigotry is another form of it. When someone is bigoted, they’re not just being foolish; they’re also being offensive and perpetuating harmful stereotypes. 

In Conclusion, 

Bigotry is a big problem in society. It leads to discrimination, stereotype threat, and myriad other problems. To improve society, we must start by stamping out bigotry. 

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Overzealous Sports Parents to Karens, Unhinged !

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The overzealous sports parents…we’ve all seen them:The cackling woman at the supermarket who won’t wear a mask.The guy at the bar who’s had too many and is looking for a fight.

Unhinged people are everywhere, making life difficult for everyone else. 

This blog post will explore some of the most common types of unhinged people and what you can do to avoid them. So without further ado…

The “Karen” Meme!overzealous sports parents

We’ve all seen the “Karen” meme. You know, the one with the woman demanding to speak to the manager because she didn’t get her way.

 Well, it turns out that the “Karen” meme might have started as a way to make fun of entitled white women. 

However, it has since evolved into a catch-all term for anyone acting entitled or demanding beyond what is necessary.

So, if you’re ever feeling like a “Karen,” know that you’re not alone. We all have our moments.

 The Overzealous Sports Parent

As any parent of a young athlete knows, it can be easy to get too invested in your child’s sporting endeavors.

Generally speaking, it’s natural to want to see your child succeed, but there is a fine line between supportive and overzealous.

Besides that, an overzealous sports parent is typically defined as excessively involved in their child’s athletic pursuits. 

In any event, it can manifest in several ways, such as 

  • pushing your child to play a sport they don’t enjoy, 
  • vicariously through your child’s success,
  •  or putting undue pressure on them to win.

While it’s normal to want your child to do well in sports, it’s important to remember that it’s just a game.

And then, the most important thing is that your child is happy and healthy. 

In the meantime…if you find yourself getting too wrapped up in your child, take a deep breath and back the hell off!

 The Politically Incorrect Neighbor!

Undoubtedly, one neighbor is always a little cray-cray and not playing with a full deck.

You know the type – they’re the ones who are always spouting off about their unpopular political opinions or telling off-color jokes. 

Although you might not agree with everything they say, you must admit they’re never boring.

Certainly, some people might find these neighbors annoying, but I think they’re a great addition to any neighborhood. 

After all, where’s the fun in living in a neighborhood full of people who are the same? 

On the contrary, I think it’s important to have a diversity of opinion and personality – and that’s what these politically incorrect neighbors provide.

The Conspiracy Theorist!

There is a growing trend of people who believe in conspiracy theories. 

  • A conspiracy theory explains an event or occurrence that is not widely accepted as true. 
  • Conspiracy theories often contain elements of paranoia and distrust of authority.

However, there are many reasons people start to believe in conspiracy theories. 

Some people may be susceptible to conspiracy theories due to…

More than ever, it is important to remember that just because someone believes in a conspiracy theory does not mean they are crazy or irrational.

 People who believe in conspiracy theories are often very intelligent and well-informed. However, their beliefs can sometimes lead them down a dangerous path.

The Anti-Vaxxer

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Are you one who can’t seem to get on board with vaccinating yourself or your children? If so, you are an anti-vaxxer.

Now, being an anti-vaxxer isn’t necessarily a bad thing. 

We all have the right to make medical decisions, and if you don’t want to vaccinate yourself or your children, that’s your prerogative.

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Covid 19 measles, ebola vaccinated. Doctor pediatrician injecting making vaccine to girl. Healthcare

However, you should be aware of some downsides to being an anti-vaxxer.

For one, you’re putting yourself and others at risk if you don’t vaccinate. 

Vaccines are designed to protect us from harmful diseases, and when everyone isn’t vaccinated, it puts us all at risk.

 Additionally, you’re also helping to spread misinformation about

To Wrap Things Up! 

And that’s the way the cookie crumbles! From overzealous sports parents to “Karens,” unhinged people have gone too far. If this article resonated with you, be sure to like and follow my blog for more content like this.

Until next time, keep on exploring the Universe!

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Clearwater: ridding herself of unwanted guest2!

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Clearwater always loved having a shower in the morning. It was a chance to start the day fresh and get all the dirt and grime of the day before behind her. 

But one morning, she found herself face-to-face with an enigma.

And so while…

Standing in her shower, Clearwater recognized a hideous bichrome muck creature standing in front of her, begging for bread. 

Clearwater was flabbergast…

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She had never seen anything like it before and didn’t know what to make of it because the creature kept repeating its request for bread.

She had tried everything to get rid of it, from setting traps to spraying it with water, but nothing had worked. 

Clearwater had been struggling with the creature for weeks, fed up, and had enough of this shit. 

Because it would show up uninvited, It would sneak into her house in the middle of the night, rummaging through her trash and making a mess. 

The battle between Clearwater and the creature…

Ultimately, Clearwater had had enough. She had even tried logic with it, but it looked at her with its beady eyes and refused to budge. 

 Then she snapped…

 Grabbed a can of paint under the sink and sprayed the creature. As a result, it ran away, screeching in anguish. 

And leaving a trail of guck behind it as it slithered away.

After that, Clearwater was relieved that the creature had taken off, but she was also agitated.

Strangely enough, getting rid of the little beast was quite challenging.

After Thoughts…

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Hence, Clearwater let out a sigh of relief and smiled as she watched the creature disappear into the shadows. 

Besides, she knew that her paint would make it easier to find any future appearances by this particular thieving deviant if it is brave enough to show up again! 

In the meantime, she decided to be more careful about leaving food out at night on the counter…

Which would allow her to have peace of mind?

Guests, like fish, begin to smell after three days.

Benjamin Franklin

Conclusion:

 The moral of this story is that sometimes in our lives, we have family and friends who come into our home and become so relaxed, so much so that you’re ready for them to leave. 

Clearwater’s story is a great reminder of how important it is to be prepared for when guests come over. (make sure they don’t overstay their visit.)

To this end…we won’t go as for as Clearwater in ridding herself of her unwanted house guests; Why? There is a better way without using paint or anything else. 

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