Month: July 2022

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Just be yourself: the benefits of being you!

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Just be yourself

In a world where everyone is trying to be someone else, it can be hard to remember that the best thing you can do is just be yourself. But there are a lot of benefits to being yourself! Here are just a few of them.

You’ll Spend Less Time Worrying About What Other People Think!

You’ll spend less time worrying about what other people think of you. This is great news because you’ll have more time to focus on important things, like your career, family, and hobbies.

In the long run, it’s not that you won’t care what others think of you; you’ll know that their opinions don’t define you. 

Because you’ll be confident in yourself and your abilities, as well as, you’ll be able to brush off the haters easily.

So go out there and live your life the way you want to. Don’t worry about what others think because, in the end, it doesn’t matter.

Just be yourself…You’ll Be More Productive!

Most importantly, there’s no magic secret to being productive. However, you can do a few things to set yourself up for success. 

Here are a few tips to help you be more productive in your work:

1. Get organized

2. Set realistic goals

3. Take breaks

4. eliminate distractions

5. Find a work buddy

Maybe if you follow these tips, you might be well on your way to being more productive in your work. And who knows, maybe you’ll even achieve that elusive work-life balance.

You’ll Be Healthier

Who doesn’t want to be healthier? We all know that we should eat healthily and exercise regularly, but sometimes it’s hard to find the motivation to do so. 

However, you may not be aware of some benefits of being healthy. Here are a few reasons why you should make being healthy a priority:

1. You’ll have more energy.

2. You’ll be able to think more clearly.

3. You’ll be less likely to get sick.

4. You’ll be better able to handle stress.

5. You’ll live longer.

So there you have it! Being healthy isn’t just good for your body, mind, and overall wellbeing. So make an effort to eat right and exercise regularly, and you’ll be on your way to a healthier, happier life.

 Just be yourself…You’ll Make Better Decisions!

Sometimes, making decisions can be tough. But did you know that you can make better decisions using your gut instinct? 

That’s right – your gut can help you make better decisions. Of course, there are times when you should trust your gut.

 For example, if you’re considering whether or not to eat that questionable piece of sushi, your gut is probably telling you to steer clear. 

But there are other times when your gut can help you make a better decision.

For instance, if you’re trying to decide whether or not to take a new job, your gut can help you weigh the pros and cons and make the best decision for you. 

So the next time you feel stuck, don’t be afraid to listen to your gut – it might just help you make the best decision you’ve ever made.

You’ll Be More Resilient…Just be yourself!

If you want to be more resilient, you can do a few things:

Just be yourself
Rubber Bands
  1.  Thinking of yourself as a rubber band. The more you stretch yourself, the more resilient you’ll become.
  2. Be like a tree. Trees bend in the wind, but they don’t break. They have a strong root system that helps them stay strong in adversity.

    3. Surround yourself with positive people. They can help you see the silver lining in every cloud.

    4. Try to be like a cat. Cats always land on their feet, no matter what. They’re graceful and resilient and always seem to land on their feet.

So if you want to be more resilient, try to think of yourself as a rubber band, a tree, a cat, or a positive person. 

To wrap things up

There are plenty of benefits to being yourself. You don’t have to keep up a pretense 24/7 – you can relax and be yourself without worrying about what others think.

 Being yourself also allows you to be genuine in your interactions with others, which can build stronger relationships.

 And finally, self-acceptance is key to happiness, so by being yourself, you can learn to love and accept yourself just as you are.

So go ahead and be yourself – it’s good for you and the world. We could all use a little more authenticity in our lives.

Just Be yourself…

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The Wondrous You Running Away!

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The Wondrous You

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The wondrous you… don’t want to deal with your problems, so you run away from them instead. While you get a lot of validation from your friends for doing so, it doesn’t make things any easier. 

In fact, it just makes things harder in the long run. In most cases, you often feel like running away whenever you are confronted with a problem…but why?

 Are you afraid of how it might change your life or what others might think about you if they discover it? 

But in doing that, you neglect the fact that there is always a solution to every problem, and running away never solves anything.

Meanwhile, running away seems like a quick fix, but you can’t run away from the problems forever. 

Anywho…Why Do You Run Away From Your Problems Anyway?

Running away is easy for most people, but in the end, you realize that they can’t run away from the problems forever. Why?

Instead of accepting them and trying to fix them, you choose to ignore them and hope that they go away. 

Last but not least, you run away from your problems when you get your ass in a sling…to avoid facing the challenging aspects of life.

 That is to say. You want your life to be a bed of roses that is always nice and easy. You run for the hills when a challenge pops up and hope it goes away.

You might be able to fool yourself for a little while by pretending that everything is okay, but the problems will not go away on their own.

 In other words, you run away to avoid taking responsibility and own up to your colossal decisions.

In any case, here is some advice from a professional…

Leaving may be more comfortable, but staying put is where real growth happens. 

Here are a few reasons to stop avoidance behavior:

  • Problems eventually catch up to you, and you’ll find yourself running into the same or similar situations.
  • It doesn’t teach you to grow or better yourself.
  • Facing problems teaches you perseverance, resilience, and strength.
  • You’ll gain a sense of pride and independence.

https://taylorcounselinggroup.com/blog/running-away-from-problems/

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Silhouette of a young girl running along the beach of the sea during an amazing sunset

How Running Away Makes Your Problems Worse?

The wondrous you, can’t handle your problems? Fine. Run away then! You’ll feel so much better when there is no struggle at all;

It’s as though we are programming ourselves to fail whenever things get tough because if they don’t happen in one go, how will I know what works best for me? 

You might think running away from your problems will make them disappear for good. But they will keep following you, no matter where your head is!

Be that as it may, they only come back with a vengeance when you run from your problems. What goes on around eventually comes right around to hit you where it hurts the most- in this case, literally!

The most important thing about dealing with problems is that they need to go away and how you deal with them…

The Importance Of Confronting Your problems!

To that end, you cannot run fast enough or hide for long…so confront the problems head-on.

Simply put…the moment you stop running away from your problems… is the same moment they start to diminish. 

3 Ways To Stop Running And Face Your

The wondrous you
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Problems

Moreover, it takes strength and courage to end the cycle of running away and facing the problems you’re most afraid of.

Here is some advice to assist you in the process of stopping making tracks:

  • Stop being chicken-hearted: you must decide to stand up to your fears.
  • Gladly accept discomfort: many things in life are worth some discomfort. (Means take responsibility and own your self-made issues.)
  • Seek support and insight from others who have walked down the road you are walking down.

You have to take the first step towards solving your problems because they ain’t gonna solve themselves.

The wondrous you…Conclusion

By and large, there is nothing worse than running away from your problems, but there is also nothing better than confronting them head-on. 

In reality, problems are inevitable, and it is impossible to live a life without them, so you might as well learn how to confront them. 

Despite what you might think, running away doesn’t make your problems disappear but makes them worse. 

Let me clarify…confronting your fears and problems is the only way to solve them.

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A Broken World… Full Of Addlebrained People!

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Young People Protesting for Environment

In a broken world…many things can be considered broken today: our environment, our political climate, our social norms, and yes, even our sense of humanity. 

Amid this chaos, some inspiring people choose to rise against all odds and make the world a better place. 

These awesome people are ordinary individuals who have decided to do something extraordinary by making a difference wherever they go. 

Such as…

Gregory Smith. Born in 1990, could read at age two, and had enrolled in university at 10. But “genius” is only one-half of the Greg Smith story. 

When not voraciously learning, this young man travels the globe as a peace and children’s rights activist. 

He is the founder of International Youth Advocates, an organization that promotes principles of peace and understanding among young people throughout the world. 

He has met with Bill Clinton and Mikhail Gorbachev and spoke in front of the UN. Smith has been nominated four times for a Nobel Peace Prize for these and other humanitarian and advocacy efforts.

Read more at: https://www.caclubindia.com/forum/10-world-s-most-extraordinary-people-257972.asp

Indeed, this world is broken, but it’s also an ugly place at times. The ugliness lurks everywhere you look – hatred, ignorance, intolerance, selfishness, fear… All of these antagonistic attributes can temporarily break us if we let them.

The World Is Broken For Many Reasons.

There are many reasons why the world is broken. Whether it be wars, natural disasters, or the climate, the world has seen it all. 

what’s more, if you look back at the history of our planet, you will find that it has been a terrible place to live in at times. The environment is in a state of constant change due to extreme weather and climate. 

There have been times when our planet has been so hot that there was no ice and times when it has been so cold that the whole planet was covered in ice. 

Many natural disasters have occurred in the history of the world, including earthquakes, volcanoes, and floods. 

In addition, wars have also been a part of human history since the beginning of time. World Wars…unfortunate instances where the entire world has been at war. 

Natural disasters and wars have caused millions of people to die and caused many to be injured. There have been many genocides in the history of the world in which certain racial groups have been destroyed.

Addlebrained People… Are Responsible For the Brokenness!

Many things in the world are broken and could be fixed, but many are broken because of shitty people. 

As a matter of fact, our social and political systems are broken due to having deceiving shitty people in power. 

Coupled with our environment constantly being polluted by shitty-ass people who do not give a damn for the planet. 

To say nothing of the many forms of hate and discrimination globally imposed on others by shitty people. 

Many of those people are struggling and need help, but those in positions to help those who choose not to. 

There are many forms of intolerance globally, and many of these issues come from people. 

Diseases are a global problem, and people contribute to the spread of these illnesses. 

We’re The Problem and the solution!

If you’re not a part of the solution, you’re a part of the problem.” African Proverb

The world can be a place where we can make a difference by helping others. We can make a difference by showing kindness, assisting those in need, and taking care of the environment. 

If we want to make the world a better place, we must first acknowledge that we are the problem. 

Whenever it becomes clear that we are contributing to the problem, we have the power to change this. We must also acknowledge that we are the solution. 

So…we can make a difference and help heal the broken world we live in.

The World Is A Dangerous Place To Live In!

The world is a dangerous place to live in since it’s full of dangerous people capable of…

  •  Committing mass murders, rapes, robberies, and kidnapping. 
  • Abusing children emotionally, physically, and sexually. 
  • Driving under the influence causes destruction and death.
  • Being mentally unstable causes harm to others.
  • It is full of people abusing drugs and alcohol and destroying their own lives and others around them. 

Many criminals in the world are capable of committing horrific murders like…

Jeffrey Dahmer

  • Jeffrey Dahmer started killing in 1978, just 18 years old and wasn’t arrested for murder until 1991, after a would-be victim escaped and led police back to Dahmer’s Milwaukee, Wisconsin, home. 

It was there that some of the gruesome details of his life of killing were seen via photos of mutilated bodies and body parts strewn across the apartment. 

He even had a vat of acid he used to dispose of victims. In all, Dahmer killed 17 people, mostly young men of color. 

John Wayne Gacy

  • A construction worker known by his suburban neighbors as outgoing, John Wayne Gacy was involved in politics and even acted as a clown for birthday parties. 

Gacy came under suspicion in 1978 when a 15-year-old boy, last seen with him, went missing. That wasn’t the only time families of missing boys had pointed fingers at Gacy, but it was the first time authorities took them seriously. 

Soon after, a search warrant granted police access to the Gacy home, with the smell of nearly 30 bodies buried in a four-foot crawl space under his home.

 He was convicted of 33 counts of murder, with additional counts of rape and torture, and was executed by lethal injection in 1994.

People Are Self Centered And Out For Themselves

Consequently, many people are only concerned about themselves and their well-being. Thinking only about the things they want and do not consider the needs of others. 

 These people are largely responsible for our world’s brokenness because they are only concerned about making things easier for themselves.

Conclusion

It is up to us as individuals to make a difference in this broken world. We must make a conscious effort to care for the environment, help people in need, and make good choices in our everyday lives. 

We can make this happen by rising above the chaos and choosing to do something extraordinary.

Think about it…

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Waiting To Exhale: My Journey To Breathing!

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In the movie Waiting to Exhale, four women find friends, love, and support as they search for happiness in their lives. 

I found all those things in my life when I discovered the power of my breath and the strength of my voice. 

This journey hasn’t been easy at times. It’s been filled with many twists and turns, ups and downs, lefts and rights. 

It’s taken me to places within myself that weren’t always comfortable or even safe. 

But it was so worth it…and continues to be so every day. In this blog post, you will learn more about who I am, what I do, and why it’s important to live your best life today.

A Short Bio About Me

Before we get started, let’s get to know each other. I am originally from sweet home, Alabama; however, I’ve been living on the east coast!

What’s more, I’m passionate about encouraging people to take action to experience the life they desire. I help them do this by showing them that they have the power to create change in their lives. 

I do this via blogging.

Why Is Exhaling Important for me?

Simply put, the world we live in is nothing short of stressful. So, I need to take a deep breath now and then, especially when stressed out or feeling overwhelmed.

Why?…inhaling and exhaling are one of the most simple and effective ways to relax the mind and body.

Not to mention, allowing myself to breathe properly helps reduce stress, ease tension, and promote a sense of calmness and well-being.

So, give it a try…inhale slowly and deeply through your nose, then exhale fully through your mouth.

And try to do this for a few minutes each day, and you’ll start to feel the calming effects.

How I Use My Breath To Live My Best Life!

Having a regular practice of taking deep, intentional breaths is so important to me. Because it helps me stay open to ideas and solutions when I feel stuck, it helps me enjoy the journey when I’m impatient for results.

“Breathe and the World Breathes with You.” –Unknown

Also, when I hit bumps in the road, it helps me stay positive and excited for what’s next and be kind and forgiving with myself when I’m not getting everything right. 

At the same time, it helps me stay focused and productive when I need to get stuff done; It helps me take breaks when I need them; and stay in the moment when I’m easily distracted.

How Speaking Out Helps Me Live My Best Life!

Speaking out about important issues is a powerful way to create change in the world. 

And research shows that people are more likely to follow you if they know what your values and beliefs stand for, not just from words but also through actions – so take some time today (or tomorrow) on this subject matter, which means something personal enough to make an impact…

  1. How Writing Helps Me Live My Best Life!(waiting to exhale)Read more

Writing is another way that I show up for myself and others. It’s another way that I live my values.

 It’s another way that I use my voice to create change in the world. It has been such a powerful tool for me to find my voice and create the life I want truly. 

It has shown me that you don’t need to be a published author to have a voice. You don’t need to be famous or have thousands of followers to impact the world.

 In addition, writing helps me see the struggles I’ve overcome as opportunities to become even more confident and empowered. 

And it allows me to see that my challenges make me a better person and that my struggles make me stronger.

Summing It Up…Waiting to exhale!

There are so many benefits to fully exhaling and then breathing in again. You can use your breath to live your best lives in many ways. 

Besides, there are many ways to use our voices to create change in the world; we can share our truths, gratitude, and hearts with the world. 

“The tongue can paint what the eyes can’t see.” –Chinese Proverb

Finally, there are so many ways that we can be heard and seen…to stand up for ourselves. There are many ways we can be the change in the world. (All it takes is an effort and a desire!)

Words mean more than what is set down on paper. It takes the human voice to infuse them with deeper meaning” –Maya Angelou

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You Can’t Save A Person From Themselves…So Don’t Try!

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You can't save a person from themselves.
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You can’t save a person from themselves. Despite everything, stepping away from someone you care about takes tremendous strength. (I learned this some time ago!)

In the same manner, it’s difficult to ignore their pleading, crying texts or the desperate voicemails they leave you.

 Therefore, when you decide whether you’re willing to sacrifice your happiness for theirs… that’s when real courage comes into play. 

Moreover, the hardest part about being an amazing friend is knowing when someone isn’t good for you. 

Then again, the second hardest part is stepping away from them, cutting off contact, and limiting how often you see them – even if it breaks your heart to do it. 

You might think it is worth staying friends with someone toxic towards you in the past. But, what’s gained from this?

 Especially if they keep repeating old mistakes and adding salt to fresh wounds- cutting them out of your life will help stop these cycles from repeating themselves! 

The pain may come now, but as time goes by, that should fade into an end to any toxicity forever – which amounts to winning a Golden Ticket!!

You’re a Human Being, Not a Tampon!

Remember that you are your person. You deserve to be treated like a human being, not a sponge used to mop up someone’s tears. 

Also, if you’re constantly being sucked dry by someone demanding all of your attention, needing you to be there for them, and constantly needing you to fix their problems…then you need to ask yourself: Are you a human being or a tampon? 

It’s important to draw boundaries and clarify that you aren’t there for someone to use and abuse. After all, you aren’t a sponge for them to mop up their tears, and you aren’t a Band-Aid to fix their problems.

 You’re a person, and you deserve to be treated like one and with respect. You deserve not to have to clean up someone else’s messes. Nor do you deserve to mop up someone else’s tears and have them drain you dry in the process. 

You can't save a person from themselves.
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Don’t Try to Save Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Be Saved.

In any case, you can’t save someone who doesn’t want to be saved, and you certainly can’t fix their problems or heal their broken hearts if they don’t want to be fixed or healed.

In like manner, it’s unfair to you; it’s unfair to them and your relationship with them. Because toxic friendships often come with unhealthy expectations. 

Such as, a toxic friend might expect you to know what to say and how to fix their problems when you have no idea what to say or how to fix their issues. 

That’s why you need to nip it in the bud ASAP. A toxic friend might expect you to be there for them when you don’t want to be around them or when you’re busy doing something else. 

Let’s be honest: You might feel like you must constantly talk to them and be there for them when they’re constantly being hurtful. 

You might even feel like you have to listen to them whine about their problems when they’re the ones who created those problems. But you don’t have to!

 Bottom line…

The one thing you can’t save someone from is themselves. So, don’t even try to!

 In the meantime, letting go of toxic friendships is important because you can’t control someone else’s actions or thoughts. You can only control your own!

When you walk away from someone who isn’t good for you, sometimes you have to decide to focus on those who enrich your life. 

In short, it’s important to know when to end a toxic friendship so you can free up your time and energy for healthier relationships and friendships.

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“You can’t save others from themselves because those who make a perpetual muddle of their lives don’t appreciate your interfering with the drama they’ve created. They want your poor-sweet-baby sympathy, but they don’t want to change.”

― Sue Grafton, T is for Trespass

 

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